From a blog:

Erin's life came to a tragic end at 11:30 pm on Oct 3, 2008 when a 64 car freight train slammed into her body. She was 21 years old and 3 months away from graduating at Northern Arizona University.

She was a stunningly beautiful, brilliant, and vibrant young lady full of fun and potential. Mathematics and computer technology came easily to her. Like many young women she dealt with insecurities, low self esteem, and lack of confidence. She had survived three major traffic accidents in her teenage years, the last one taking the life of her best friend, who had been her passenger.

"What a hard thing to deal with," we thought. "How is she ever going to be able to process it all!"

Erin dealt with it as she had with all the other turbulent teenage emotions that were getting out of hand. She buried it deep inside and worried about her weight and what she should eat or not eat. She got involved in binge drinking, compulsive spending, and bulimia. She got angry with her mother and grandparents.

With all of this going on she was to graduate with honors, preparing to be a lawyer, performing brilliantly at her job, and was a wonderful friend to those who knew her. Her parents and family worried about her; the drinking and eating binges, the bulimia, and the irresponsible spending.

She was offered counseling numerous times, but refused it all. She wasn't ready to take away the compulsions and face all that was underneath.

Few people really understood what was going on with Erin. On the surface she was functioning beautifully, managing well in school, holding down jobs, and apparently enjoying her new start in life as an adult. Her family could see the signs of her deeper struggle, coming out in the form of difficult and self destructive behaviors.

She pushed away all efforts of support and help, bringing out feelings of frustration, and even disgust, in those who cared about her.

She often succeed in pushing people away, leaving her to try to work through it all herself. But she wasn't ready to work through it. She couldn't yet see that there was a better way to live. Yes, actually live, rather than fill the moments with drama, crises, and obsessions to avoid the confusion, self hate, and turmoil within.