For those of you who don't already know and have been asking what happened to Charis......... She had been sick with MS for a long time and her health was deteriating daily. She had a been up for multiple days in a row and took a couple of sleeping pills to help her sleep. During the night she evidentally had a seizure (which she dealt with often) and her heart was too slow/body too weak to recover from it. When Dave got home she was already ..gone...but he tried CPR until the ambulance got there. Obviously the memory of that night will be forever with Dave, and I can't imagine having to be strong enough to live through it. Dave is an amazing man and an incredible daddy, there's no doubt in my mind he'll pull through this and he'll be there and be everything Jolie needs ..plus some.
Dealing with the death of a friend or family member is such a difficult confusing thing to go through. Figuring out how to act or react or treat a friend that's dealing with the death of a person so close to them is also confusing and difficult. Please try to remember that while we all want Dave to know we're there for him and offer condolences, it's not an easy thing to relive the last moments for someone so close to you over and over again. It's hard to pick yourself up and try to get back to some form of normal when something as tragic as this happens. So while you're racking your brain trying to think of a way to help and wanting to just make things better for him, try to remember the things that make the most of a difference is to be yourself, be a friend, be there, help him continue to have a normal life (as normal as can be expected), help him make it through a day without having to rehash the events of the night with every loving, curious, well meaning person he crosses. Just invite him to lunch, hang out, just help him make an attempt at being happy and living the life Charis wanted so badly for him ..... These things will all help more and mean more than than telling him how sorry you are that he's going through all of this and asking a million questions about why and how.
We all miss Charis more than words can express...but at the same time we have to remember what a strong independant person she was. She didn't deserve to live a life of pain and it was hard for her to have to watch those she loved hurt for her and feel sorry for her or have to take care of her. That's just not the type of woman she was. So while you missing her .....be happy for her, happy that she no longer has to live in pain and suffer, be happy that she no longer has to watch those she loves hurt for her...... be thankful that she's moved on to a much more comfortable place and know that she'd want us all to remember what an amazing woman she was and want us all to live the life we've been given to the best of our abilities. She'd want to see us taking care of our families and spending time with friends, being there for the people that need us and doing the things we love. We owe it to the friends that were taken so soon to make the most of the time we're given and LIVE!